Marriage: Simple Conversations

I have found that the longer I am married the more difficult it is to have conversations that involve more than the kids, household issues or work. It is sometimes hard to have significant conversations with each other without trying to figure out where to start. After seven years or marriage my hubs and I found ourselves in the "conversation tunnel," (which often included his ridiculously elaborate work stories with different voices for everyone in the office and me responding with blank stares). To get out of this downward spiral we started asking each other the same three questions each day.

1. What was the best part of your day?
2. What was the worst part of your day?
3. What was the best decision you made today?

These same questions often lead to good conversation and it gives me a reason to reflect on the day itself. We hope to keep the tradition up with the kids when they are older (hopefully it will lead to them consciously making good decisions).  At the very least, at least they will know their parents are interested in their day.

Is this For Me?

For the last four years I have been on the weight loss train. I started the process once I realized how unhealthy I was.  I was a newlywed, but felt no where near attractive. So, when my hubs deployed I decided to make a change.  I really wanted him to be proud of me and what I had accomplished while he was away.  I started at about 220lbs and when he returned home around 6 months later I had reached 195.  I continued with slow progress over the next 2 years losing another 8 pounds . Last year I got pregnant and put the pause on weight loss (although I still ate pretty healthy while pregnant) since having my daughter 10 months ago I have managed to lose the baby pounds, plus about 10 pounds (currently 178). 
The point of all of this is that I recently realized that through each cycle my desire was never really for me. I lost weight because I thought that was what my hubs wanted, I knew that was what my family wanted, I am sure I wanted it but I allowed my desire to please others to come before what should have been my need to do it for myself. I am sure this need to please everyone around me and to maintain some sort of control had a ton to do with the unhealthy diet choices, and eating disorders I struggled with as a teen and in my college years . 
I am not naive enough to truly believe that with my new found sense of self that I will never  worry about these desires again, but I honestly know that the choices I now make are to better myself for myself.